Broken Relationship Recovery Advice

When you are recovering from a broken relationship it can seem like the end of the world.  You are hurting so much and just want to hide away and cry.  That’s exactly how I have felt in the past when my relationship ended.  I just wanted to sit and cry all day.

They say that when a relationship ends it is just like a bereavement and really that is so true because after all you have lost someone – the person you love the most in all the world.  Sometimes in a close relationship you have also lost your best friend too and that really hurts.  You have lost the one person you trusted and could talk to and share everything with.

So now what?  How do you carry on?

I really don’t know but somehow you DO carry on and trust me that old saying time heals, is so true.  Time does heal but it can be a long and painful process.

What I used to hate the most was well meaning friends trying to cheer me up.  I’m sure you understand what I mean, they think that the answer is to go out and have some fun.  But how do you go out and have some fun when all you want to do is to be left alone to sit and cry and feel sorry for yourself.  Then you feel guilty for being so miserable and ungrateful to your friends for trying to help.

But yes of course you should, in time, go out, have some fun and enjoy yourself.  But only when you feel ready.

What I say is give yourself some time to be miserable and sad.  Give yourself time to cry.  It will do you good to cry.

But how long should you spend feeling sad and depressed and sorry for yourself?

I actually think that when you are ready to stop feel sad, you will know. One day you will get fed up with being sad and depressed and think its time to get back in the real world.

Of course this doesn’t mean to say that you will stop feeling sad and upset immediately, this will all take time.  But one day, gradually you will find you actually laughed and forget to feel sad, even if it was for just a short time.  And when that happens you will know you are on the road to recovery.